The Angry Child Mode is often a reaction to triggering of the Vulnerable Child. Basically, when a person feels vulnerable or insecure and acts out without thinking, the Angry Child takes command. When your inner Angry Child is a problem, it is important that identify the needs associated with this mode and find ways to fulfill or express these needs in healthier ways. It may be prevalent when you feel mistreated, abused, or threatened, which can go along with reacting to feelings of the Vulnerable Child (e.g. sadness, loneliness, fear).
If this is the case, looking after (protecting and reassuring) your Vulnerable Child will also help control the Angry Child. But, being defiant and entitled may also require limits and discipline. Accept that not all needs can be fulfilled. The first step is to get better acquainted with your Angry Child Mode.
The first exercise of Session 7 is a worksheet designed to explore and clarify your Angry Child Mode. The objective is to clarify when, how, and why it is triggered, and how it makes you feel and behave. It also gives you the opportunity to consider best ways to anticipate, prevent, or control your Angry Child Mode. Make sure that you take enough time to think each question through.
Download and print the angry child worksheet here: Angry Child Mode Worksheet
In the next exercise, we will explore ways to direct or control the anger that your Angry Child Mode can cause.