The end of a marriage, or any committed relationship, is never easy to deal with. Whatever caused the breakup (and no matter who wanted it), the end of a relationship turns your world upside down and can trigger a variety of unsettling and painful feelings. Even if the relationship was no longer good, breakups still hurt. Though it may seem like the end of the world, however, it isn’t and there are some things that you can do to help yourself cope with the mental stress involved in any sort of breakup. The first and foremost of these things is to realize and to keep telling yourself, that it will get better and you can move on with your life.
Understand that Mixed Emotions are Normal
It is completely normal to feel angry, sad, frustrated, confused, scared, and exhausted all at once; and these emotions can be very intense. Realize that these feelings are normal and will lessen with time. Even if the relationship wasn’t a healthy one, venturing into the future alone can be frightening.
Give Yourself Some Slack
Grant yourself permission to function and feel at less than your peak level for a given period of time. You may not be as caring to others or as productive at work as normal for a while, but it will get better. No one is superhuman and it takes the time to regroup, re-energize, and heal. During this time, make sure that you are taking care of yourself. Don’t let your appearance go and make sure that you are sleeping and eating properly. It’s all too easy to fall into the rut of “Who do I have to look good for?” The answer to that question is YOU.
Don’t Go Through it Alone
Reach out to friends and family for support. Sharing your feelings can help you to work through this difficult period. There are numerous support groups, both in person and online, where you can share your feelings with others who are in situations similar to yours. Isolation leads to higher stress levels, lower concentration, and can affect your overall health. Don’t be afraid to ask for outside help when you need it.
Coping with a divorce or breakup is difficult, but not impossible. It may seem like the end of the world at times, but you can heal and move on. Concentrate on your future rather than reliving the past and learn from the experience. Remember that when one door closes, it give another door a chance to open.