It doesn’t matter whether you’re sitting across from a friend of a friend, a Tinder find or a well-intentioned blind date, for most of us, there will be a thunderbolt. That moment when it goes one of two ways. Either you hit it off or you realize he’s the kind of guy who wears sunglasses all year around, is no stranger to a facial and has absolutely no personality. And you’ve still got another two courses to go. The answer is not to shimmy out the bathroom window in your favorite dress. The answer, ladies, is mindfulness. Here’re our top tips for rescuing a bad date (or avoiding one in the first place).
1) Concentrate on the Moment
So his first joke backfired, don’t hold it against him. Focus on being in the moment. Give him your undivided attention, listen to what he says and consider the date from his point of view. We’ve all been known to say odd things under pressure.
2) Avoid Judgement
Supposedly, we form lasting opinions on each other within the first seven seconds of meeting. Even the most cynical romancer will admit this is a recipe for disaster when looking for a mate. You can’t help forming opinions, but focus on not being bound by them. Don’t let a preconceived idea ruin your date and colour your relationship before it has even begun.
3) Think Nicely
This one works both ways. Don’t let yourself get carried away with extreme thoughts about either you or your date. More than one potential couple has been ruined by an errant worry that the person sat opposite is some how better than them or unobtainable. Everyone brings different strengths to a relationship, thinking nicely gives you time to discover what might be without prejudice.
4) Be Self Aware
More than one date has been ruined by a bad mood. Take the time before your date to centre yourself, tune in to how you are feeling and don’t let any negativity from the day cross over into your date.
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