Whether you are locked in a battle of wills at work or dealing with a rampaging teenager at home, conflict can have a detrimental impact on every aspect of your life. We take a look at the three key ways mindfulness can restore peace and harmony.
1) Be Present
Feeling overlooked, undervalued or disrespected is a common emotion for those in conflict. In the fast pace of the modern world, checking emails with the phone balanced on your shoulder or catching up with family while you cook dinner is a common occurrence. We rarely even notice we’re doing it. But what about the people we’re in conflict with?
Is your colleague miffed because you never seem to listen to their ideas? Or are the children angry because they don’t feel as though you’ve heard them? Value each and every person in your life enough to be present when you’re talking to them. Respect and communication can go a long way towards resolving conflict, even if you never find out what started it.
2) Reserve Judgment
Whatever feelings a particular conversation or argument sparks, reserve judgment. Don’t analyse your feelings as positive or negative, just accept the emotion, acknowledge it and move on. Holding onto feelings, letting them fester, means you will embark on the next conversation with an established opinion that will serves no purpose.
How many times have you watched someone get really angry? Have you noticed how their ability to reason is affected? Have you seen them destroy hard won credibility and respect in a few furious sentences?
When you are faced with conflict, accept the situation. Be mindful of your purpose, what you need to achieve from this conversation and understand that those around you will have their purpose. Staying calm and accepting that the conflict can be resolved means you are more than halfway towards fixing any rift.