We have all heard that we should listen to our “inner voice”. This is nothing new; professionals have been saying it for years. Listening to your “inner voice” is a good thing when we are hearing the life-affirming the helps us strive to reach for the stars, the one that wants us to accomplish any goal we set. What happens though, when our “inner voice” is critical and destructive? Overcoming this form of “inner voice” is one of the most important steps anyone can take towards living a truly joyful and fulfilling life. It takes some serious work though, after all this voice knows our deepest fears and weaknesses.
There are some methods you can use though that will go a long way towards helping you to tame your inner critic.
- The first thing you need to do is learn to identify this “critical” voice in comparison to the more life-affirming version. Many people fall prey to the critical form of their inner self simply because they do not know how to recognize the difference between the two. Often it will start out sounding reassuring and in an instant turn to more belittling comments.
- Challenge the critical voice, this form of your inner voice has a lot of really bad advice to hand out. “Don’t speak up, nobody cares”, “don’t ask him out, he’s not interested” are a couple of examples of statements that come through loud and clear. You have to learn to combat these types of statements with things like “They all want to hear what I have to say” and “I have a lot to offer this person”. Consciously countering the negative with the positive affirmations is one the best ways to beat your inner critic.
These are just a couple of methods that you can use to tame your inner critic. Nobody said it was going to be easy, and like anything in life that is worth doing, it is going to challenge you in new ways every day. The key is to stay positive and always take your “inner critic” for what it is, nothing more than a voice that you are choosing to listen to. Like any bully or critical person, this voice only has as much power over you as you allow it to.